American Responsible Divorce

the "responsible divorce" pledge

  

In the box below, there is the pledge we suggest you make as you go through your separation and divorce.

It is written as “we” because, ideally, both you and your ex would agree to it.

If your ex doesn’t, you can still see this pledge as a reminder to do what you can to avoid contributing to the spiral of ever-growing strife that characterizes the adversarial divorce.


We know that the kind of divorce where parents fight it out to "win the divorce" has bitter, destructive results. Children are deeply affected.

We acknowledge that, even as we break up, we still have a very important common goal: taking good care of the children.

We view our divorce as a transition: from being part of a couple, to leading separate lives. We pledge to make this transition in a humane and responsible way, so that separating does not jeopardize our common goal.

See also:

- printer-friendly pdf file of this pledge

- the meaning of "responsible divorce" (including different opinions about it)
The pledge
The network
Free ebook

 

Proactive
divorce recovery
Responsible Divorce: Free ebook | children | parenting | legal issues | teens | more

 

American Responsible Divorce Network is an informal network of people working to
make divorce gentler on children and families.

 

An initiative of Proactive Change